My dad is dying. I am not vaccinated and my step mom won’t let me see my dad unless I’m vaccinated. Being a Christian, I kept telling myself I wasn’t going to lie about my vax status. But, our pastor actually preached one Sunday about Rahab lying about the spies. Point being, sometimes it’s ok to lie. After pontificating over this for an additional two months I have in and lied to my dad and step mom and sister and told them I was getting vaccinated. Mind you, I have had COVID twice and got an antibody test showing I have immunity (funny how that works) AND I had a note from my Dr staying I had robust immunity. But that wasn’t good enough so I am lying so I can see my father before he dies but I don’t feel guilty! I hate what Biden, Fauci et al have done to our country and families!
Apr 12, 2022·edited Apr 12, 2022Liked by Donald Jeffries
First of all, Donald, you are not: "incredibly depressing". Monday evenings are the highlight of my week,because I get to hear you.
The rent you spoke of in Virginia is dirt cheap compared to Oregon. My friend (Mexican) who lives in a high-poverty town, has had a rent increase three times a year for the past five years. We jokingly call his apartment complex "the barrio" because it is falling apart and mostly filled with illegal immigrants. All the SSI renters were forced out five years ago when the rent started to climb.
I never knew my two grandparents in Europe. My American grandparents were very rural. They still made hay with a draft horse. Born in the 1800s, sometimes they puzzled me. Once I asked my grandmother to make doughnuts. She replied that we would have to kill a bear first. I wondered about that for years, until three years ago, I learned online that pioneer folk felt that bear fat made the best baked goods.
My 98-year-old father died in January of the vax. His wife refused to allow his children to see him, or care for him in our homes. He died alone in a care home. One would think this would foster some kind of solidarity between siblings...not even. We are all still estranged. They all cut me off some thirty years ago, when I became a "conspiracy theorist"...and I stopped caring decades ago. The friends I have now are all people I met after I awoke to the truth...so they respect me, and take my warnings seriously...because they have witnessed me being right about the future on many prior occasions. All my siblings have been vaxed, but if/when they die, my life will not change, because we have no relationship. Donald, you are not alone.
If my pioneer grandparents could see what has happened in woke Oregon, they would be spinning in their graves. I grew up singing the state song in school: "Land of the empire builders, land of the golden West. Conquered and held by free men; fairest and the best. Blessed by the blood of martyrs, land of the setting sun, hail to thee, land of promise, my Oregon." Now Oregon is the land of obese, pink-haired screeching lunatics...and the golden glow does not come from the setting sun...but rather from the flames of burning buildings during the endless riots. I only feel shame for my state now.
This article really hits home with me. I have experienced a fractured family also. I'm lucky that I live with my grandparents and mother, and we are close. We have nothing to do with my uncles and a few cousins for these same kind of reasons you have described. (Pre COVID BS).
I do not know if my cousins, uncles or aunts got vaccinated but I highly suspect they have. They we're very stupid people, yet they always talked to us as if they had all the answers. If they still knew me, I would have warned them about the vaccines, but they know better!
One uncle married a woman who was a communist whore literally, the other uncle married a religious cultist. In the process both men allowed these women to seed hatred toward their own mother and father who not only raised them well, they did everything for them. Got them to go to college, taught them well, and both men did well in life in terms of finance.
They (my uncles) never visited or talked to their parents again. My grandpa is 83, grandma 81 she has alzheimers. Not only have they acted in such a disgusting fashion on their own, they're kids (my cousins) have not and obviously will not see their own grandparents ever again. They do not care to, and when they did see my grandparents, they had no interest in family history or anything about them. The children were almost reptilian and cold in nature the way they were being raised.
I always felt like the culture and media had something to do with their pussy-whipped ways letting the wives mentally destroy their loyalty and love for their parents. Even if you watch shows like "Everybody Loves Raymond", there are obvious themes of a lame husband and strong wife. We could name plenty of other shows with similar themes that demean the average traditional family.
For me, I am glad we stopped seeing certain family members before the COVID scam. I can't imagine the bullshit they would have come up with to mess with us.
Too much truth in your words. All four of my remaining siblings and spouses are vaccinated. One sister regrets deeply that she was pressured into getting it as she has continuing nerve pain down one side of her body. There's really been no argument over it, but the attitude is that my spouse and I are idiots for not getting it. We did end up getting covid in December of 2020, but a recent covid antibody test shows we still have antibodies. Everyone in my family is retired and I worry that the vaccine will shorten their lives so even though I try to educate them a little, I refuse to fight with them. I could be an orphan soon...
Don... Beautifully said. You brought tears to these old eyes as I have observed the same fractures and dysfunction within my own family and tried to understand how we ever got to this state of chaos. It appears to me that things really began to unravel following WWII, but my own family had already exploded into only semi-related subsets that communicated little starting in the 30s.
Having just completed 73 trips around the Sun, I am still working as a physician. Though a boarded ophthalmologist by training, I stumbled into cannabis medicine a decade ago following the loss of my son to PTSD. What I have discovered in the past 10 years is the centrality of TRAUMA to most disease and dysfunction that we deal with in medicine. Sadly, most mainstream docs do not comprehend. 90%+ of the people that I see (who come to the "pot doc" as a last resort because the Medical Industrial Complex has failed them), actually have significant PTSD (usually family issues) and this results in all manner of physical dysfunction. When I see patients realize that they are not crazy - not genetically or religiously cursed - not Big Pharma or procedure deficient... When they realize that they are not worthless - not irreparably damaged - not subhuman.... They get better. Always.
The culture and society in which we live has created this state of affairs. It is an ANTI-Human artificial construct and it is not sustainable. We can and must do better.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. You are not alone. It seems that we are all part of a bigger family that we are not always aware of... Peace and Hope.
Don, you just had to get personal didn't ya? Oh man, I have been trying to ignore it, stuff it in the recess, but you had to open the wound, lol.
Thanks. I've been telling you for years you strike a chord and eloquently voice what many of us can't articulate, so thank you again.
It's on so many levels in my family and I think you nailed it that the Scamdemic/Great Jab didn't start but allowed the dysfunction to go full Monty.
My step mom who basically raised me isn't allowed to see her grandchildren and her 5 sons who basically denounced her for emotionally pleading with them to see the truth. The night before her remarriage they asked her to leave at her own rehearsal dinner. They at least showed at the wedding but hasn't spoken to them since. This woman sacrificed all for us kids. She home schooled them and was an incredibly doting mother to them. Its unexplainable.
I have yet to see my own mother for 2+ years because her husband won't "let" her due to my unvaccinated status. My dad's been super ill and is going thru a lot of what your brother did, the wonderfully modern America 2.0 medical system or as I like to call it, the "we don't give a shit" system. Of the six brothers, only 2 of us have tried to help him. He was also a flawed but good man. Never refused to help them and again, sacrificed to give them a solid upbringing.
I've basically just given up, which I do feel guilt over but it's a losing battle and although I do talk to my mom, it's so carefully scripted lest I mention anything of meaning at all that I basically listen and go, uh huh. that's nice.
I spent the 1st 30 years in your neck of the woods but left and never looked back. Greater DC is pure evil. The stench of power and corruption is palpable. I moved to Alabama, the heart of Dixie where the legacy of large extended families has remnants but it's here too.
The US is dead. The ideal of it for sure, but like A weekend at Bernie's, the corpse is being propped up and played for gags. We're starting to get a real taste and smell of the rot and putrification. Maybe this Ukraine thing will put us down finally or the coming economic collapse or Trump '24 or who knows what. I'm starting to think that might not be all that bad.
You're still mourning for your brother, but in a way, we're all mourning and grieving for the loss of an ideal. Yea, it was never perfect but there was enough to give hope. Now, it's becoming a faint memory. The Plandemic did that. It shattered our illusion that maybe we could get back on track that something good could return.
So say your good byes and remember the Joy/pain your brother gave you. We'll do the same. We'll laugh again.... just after we figure out how to stop crying.
This really hurt to read, Donald, in the same way a good book that reveals deep truths and breaks your heart does. I am aching for you and am angry at your relatives on your and Ricky’s behalf. This captures what far too many people have suffered over the past two years.
I am fortunate that my mother and step-father are on the same page as me, but that didn’t stop them from being coerced by their doctors into getting both jabs early in the rollout (before there was an avalanche of evidence regarding the dangers), which remains a source of anxiety for me. One of my uncles has also been strongly against medical tyranny from the outset and is a big supporter of my work.
I actually haven’t had a chance to see where the rest of my relatives are on the COVIDmania spectrum since we communicate so infrequently. My suspicion is they’ve been bamboozled like nearly everyone else.
My idiot brothers told my parents they wouldn’t see them if they didn’t get vaccinated. So my parents got vaccinated. My dad developed heart issues, my mom is - so far - okay. Probably got a placebo with at least one of the doses because she didn’t develop side effects.
Ward Cleaver. Hadn't thought of him in a while. Does anybody else remember June complaining, "Ward, you were pretty hard on the Beaver last night!"
Went to Home Depot today. Last time I was there, only a few others besides me were maskless. I didn't see even one today! On one aisle, three 11 or 12 year old girls were playing some hand-clapping girls' game while waiting for Dad to find his stuff. The normality hit me like a ton of bricks, if that makes any sense. It felt good and I understand what it is you're missing. I hope you can find at least a little of it somehow.
Very well said Don, I feel your pain. Luckily, I haven't had many family issues with Covid, but I understand it's a major problem for a lot of families in America. I do find it almost impossible to discuss anything serious with any of my family members though. It's difficult to discuss anything serious with ANYONE anymore though...
You write:
"I was already down on many family members, after I was fired without warning from a corporation I worked for all my adult life- forty four years. They weren’t exactly supportive when that happened. No, that’s being way too kind. They ignored it. They never called, or even mentioned the subject. In this way, their response mirrored their reaction to my six published books, appearances on television, and many radio interviews, not to mention my own radio shows. Almost since it began, my new, lowly-paid but rewarding career has been the giant elephant in the room. I literally have never received a single word of support or encouragement from any of them."
This has been almost my exact same experience. I've been publicly speaking about some of the most controversial topics for over a decade now. I've been writing for a national newspaper and magazine and maintain my own website for just as long. None of my close friends from high school or college or virtually any family member has asked about my views or wanted to know why I feel so strongly about some of these subjects. It's like we just can't even deal with serious, controversial issues anymore. It's sad and has led to major alienation.
very nice and very very sad again, 90% of the "Western World" have become mental. Here in Germany we dropped the mask mandate last week, and I am more then shocked to see that 90% will not let go of that coffee filter in their faces. Many families have been split over this Covid fraud.
Whither went all those houses and apartments? (Yeah, I know Blackrock and the Federal Reserve fund it, but what do they do with them?) Huge immigrant (both legal and illegal) influx, or other secret population boom? "We buy houses" solicitations show up all the time; snail mail, text, stickers on door and gate, and worst of all, Gmail ads. "Newspaper" real estate columns refuse to acknowledge it, and ban me when I try to ask.
My dad is dying. I am not vaccinated and my step mom won’t let me see my dad unless I’m vaccinated. Being a Christian, I kept telling myself I wasn’t going to lie about my vax status. But, our pastor actually preached one Sunday about Rahab lying about the spies. Point being, sometimes it’s ok to lie. After pontificating over this for an additional two months I have in and lied to my dad and step mom and sister and told them I was getting vaccinated. Mind you, I have had COVID twice and got an antibody test showing I have immunity (funny how that works) AND I had a note from my Dr staying I had robust immunity. But that wasn’t good enough so I am lying so I can see my father before he dies but I don’t feel guilty! I hate what Biden, Fauci et al have done to our country and families!
First of all, Donald, you are not: "incredibly depressing". Monday evenings are the highlight of my week,because I get to hear you.
The rent you spoke of in Virginia is dirt cheap compared to Oregon. My friend (Mexican) who lives in a high-poverty town, has had a rent increase three times a year for the past five years. We jokingly call his apartment complex "the barrio" because it is falling apart and mostly filled with illegal immigrants. All the SSI renters were forced out five years ago when the rent started to climb.
I never knew my two grandparents in Europe. My American grandparents were very rural. They still made hay with a draft horse. Born in the 1800s, sometimes they puzzled me. Once I asked my grandmother to make doughnuts. She replied that we would have to kill a bear first. I wondered about that for years, until three years ago, I learned online that pioneer folk felt that bear fat made the best baked goods.
My 98-year-old father died in January of the vax. His wife refused to allow his children to see him, or care for him in our homes. He died alone in a care home. One would think this would foster some kind of solidarity between siblings...not even. We are all still estranged. They all cut me off some thirty years ago, when I became a "conspiracy theorist"...and I stopped caring decades ago. The friends I have now are all people I met after I awoke to the truth...so they respect me, and take my warnings seriously...because they have witnessed me being right about the future on many prior occasions. All my siblings have been vaxed, but if/when they die, my life will not change, because we have no relationship. Donald, you are not alone.
If my pioneer grandparents could see what has happened in woke Oregon, they would be spinning in their graves. I grew up singing the state song in school: "Land of the empire builders, land of the golden West. Conquered and held by free men; fairest and the best. Blessed by the blood of martyrs, land of the setting sun, hail to thee, land of promise, my Oregon." Now Oregon is the land of obese, pink-haired screeching lunatics...and the golden glow does not come from the setting sun...but rather from the flames of burning buildings during the endless riots. I only feel shame for my state now.
This article really hits home with me. I have experienced a fractured family also. I'm lucky that I live with my grandparents and mother, and we are close. We have nothing to do with my uncles and a few cousins for these same kind of reasons you have described. (Pre COVID BS).
I do not know if my cousins, uncles or aunts got vaccinated but I highly suspect they have. They we're very stupid people, yet they always talked to us as if they had all the answers. If they still knew me, I would have warned them about the vaccines, but they know better!
One uncle married a woman who was a communist whore literally, the other uncle married a religious cultist. In the process both men allowed these women to seed hatred toward their own mother and father who not only raised them well, they did everything for them. Got them to go to college, taught them well, and both men did well in life in terms of finance.
They (my uncles) never visited or talked to their parents again. My grandpa is 83, grandma 81 she has alzheimers. Not only have they acted in such a disgusting fashion on their own, they're kids (my cousins) have not and obviously will not see their own grandparents ever again. They do not care to, and when they did see my grandparents, they had no interest in family history or anything about them. The children were almost reptilian and cold in nature the way they were being raised.
I always felt like the culture and media had something to do with their pussy-whipped ways letting the wives mentally destroy their loyalty and love for their parents. Even if you watch shows like "Everybody Loves Raymond", there are obvious themes of a lame husband and strong wife. We could name plenty of other shows with similar themes that demean the average traditional family.
For me, I am glad we stopped seeing certain family members before the COVID scam. I can't imagine the bullshit they would have come up with to mess with us.
As usual Mr. Jeffries, brilliant work, thank you!
Too much truth in your words. All four of my remaining siblings and spouses are vaccinated. One sister regrets deeply that she was pressured into getting it as she has continuing nerve pain down one side of her body. There's really been no argument over it, but the attitude is that my spouse and I are idiots for not getting it. We did end up getting covid in December of 2020, but a recent covid antibody test shows we still have antibodies. Everyone in my family is retired and I worry that the vaccine will shorten their lives so even though I try to educate them a little, I refuse to fight with them. I could be an orphan soon...
Don... Beautifully said. You brought tears to these old eyes as I have observed the same fractures and dysfunction within my own family and tried to understand how we ever got to this state of chaos. It appears to me that things really began to unravel following WWII, but my own family had already exploded into only semi-related subsets that communicated little starting in the 30s.
Having just completed 73 trips around the Sun, I am still working as a physician. Though a boarded ophthalmologist by training, I stumbled into cannabis medicine a decade ago following the loss of my son to PTSD. What I have discovered in the past 10 years is the centrality of TRAUMA to most disease and dysfunction that we deal with in medicine. Sadly, most mainstream docs do not comprehend. 90%+ of the people that I see (who come to the "pot doc" as a last resort because the Medical Industrial Complex has failed them), actually have significant PTSD (usually family issues) and this results in all manner of physical dysfunction. When I see patients realize that they are not crazy - not genetically or religiously cursed - not Big Pharma or procedure deficient... When they realize that they are not worthless - not irreparably damaged - not subhuman.... They get better. Always.
The culture and society in which we live has created this state of affairs. It is an ANTI-Human artificial construct and it is not sustainable. We can and must do better.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. You are not alone. It seems that we are all part of a bigger family that we are not always aware of... Peace and Hope.
Don, you just had to get personal didn't ya? Oh man, I have been trying to ignore it, stuff it in the recess, but you had to open the wound, lol.
Thanks. I've been telling you for years you strike a chord and eloquently voice what many of us can't articulate, so thank you again.
It's on so many levels in my family and I think you nailed it that the Scamdemic/Great Jab didn't start but allowed the dysfunction to go full Monty.
My step mom who basically raised me isn't allowed to see her grandchildren and her 5 sons who basically denounced her for emotionally pleading with them to see the truth. The night before her remarriage they asked her to leave at her own rehearsal dinner. They at least showed at the wedding but hasn't spoken to them since. This woman sacrificed all for us kids. She home schooled them and was an incredibly doting mother to them. Its unexplainable.
I have yet to see my own mother for 2+ years because her husband won't "let" her due to my unvaccinated status. My dad's been super ill and is going thru a lot of what your brother did, the wonderfully modern America 2.0 medical system or as I like to call it, the "we don't give a shit" system. Of the six brothers, only 2 of us have tried to help him. He was also a flawed but good man. Never refused to help them and again, sacrificed to give them a solid upbringing.
I've basically just given up, which I do feel guilt over but it's a losing battle and although I do talk to my mom, it's so carefully scripted lest I mention anything of meaning at all that I basically listen and go, uh huh. that's nice.
I spent the 1st 30 years in your neck of the woods but left and never looked back. Greater DC is pure evil. The stench of power and corruption is palpable. I moved to Alabama, the heart of Dixie where the legacy of large extended families has remnants but it's here too.
The US is dead. The ideal of it for sure, but like A weekend at Bernie's, the corpse is being propped up and played for gags. We're starting to get a real taste and smell of the rot and putrification. Maybe this Ukraine thing will put us down finally or the coming economic collapse or Trump '24 or who knows what. I'm starting to think that might not be all that bad.
You're still mourning for your brother, but in a way, we're all mourning and grieving for the loss of an ideal. Yea, it was never perfect but there was enough to give hope. Now, it's becoming a faint memory. The Plandemic did that. It shattered our illusion that maybe we could get back on track that something good could return.
So say your good byes and remember the Joy/pain your brother gave you. We'll do the same. We'll laugh again.... just after we figure out how to stop crying.
This really hurt to read, Donald, in the same way a good book that reveals deep truths and breaks your heart does. I am aching for you and am angry at your relatives on your and Ricky’s behalf. This captures what far too many people have suffered over the past two years.
I am fortunate that my mother and step-father are on the same page as me, but that didn’t stop them from being coerced by their doctors into getting both jabs early in the rollout (before there was an avalanche of evidence regarding the dangers), which remains a source of anxiety for me. One of my uncles has also been strongly against medical tyranny from the outset and is a big supporter of my work.
My father is all for the injections, and our Thanksgiving phone call was the inspiration for my “Letter to an Agree-to-Disagree Relative” (https://margaretannaalice.substack.com/p/letter-to-an-agree-to-disagree-relative).
I actually haven’t had a chance to see where the rest of my relatives are on the COVIDmania spectrum since we communicate so infrequently. My suspicion is they’ve been bamboozled like nearly everyone else.
My idiot brothers told my parents they wouldn’t see them if they didn’t get vaccinated. So my parents got vaccinated. My dad developed heart issues, my mom is - so far - okay. Probably got a placebo with at least one of the doses because she didn’t develop side effects.
So yeah. I haven’t had much contact.
this is an amazing piece, i can relate 100%. our culture is dead. my family is no where to be found. laura rubin
Ward Cleaver. Hadn't thought of him in a while. Does anybody else remember June complaining, "Ward, you were pretty hard on the Beaver last night!"
Went to Home Depot today. Last time I was there, only a few others besides me were maskless. I didn't see even one today! On one aisle, three 11 or 12 year old girls were playing some hand-clapping girls' game while waiting for Dad to find his stuff. The normality hit me like a ton of bricks, if that makes any sense. It felt good and I understand what it is you're missing. I hope you can find at least a little of it somehow.
Very well said Don, I feel your pain. Luckily, I haven't had many family issues with Covid, but I understand it's a major problem for a lot of families in America. I do find it almost impossible to discuss anything serious with any of my family members though. It's difficult to discuss anything serious with ANYONE anymore though...
You write:
"I was already down on many family members, after I was fired without warning from a corporation I worked for all my adult life- forty four years. They weren’t exactly supportive when that happened. No, that’s being way too kind. They ignored it. They never called, or even mentioned the subject. In this way, their response mirrored their reaction to my six published books, appearances on television, and many radio interviews, not to mention my own radio shows. Almost since it began, my new, lowly-paid but rewarding career has been the giant elephant in the room. I literally have never received a single word of support or encouragement from any of them."
This has been almost my exact same experience. I've been publicly speaking about some of the most controversial topics for over a decade now. I've been writing for a national newspaper and magazine and maintain my own website for just as long. None of my close friends from high school or college or virtually any family member has asked about my views or wanted to know why I feel so strongly about some of these subjects. It's like we just can't even deal with serious, controversial issues anymore. It's sad and has led to major alienation.
very nice and very very sad again, 90% of the "Western World" have become mental. Here in Germany we dropped the mask mandate last week, and I am more then shocked to see that 90% will not let go of that coffee filter in their faces. Many families have been split over this Covid fraud.
Your kid's cousins will be DEAD as adults, so not so much estranged as not sharing earth anymore.
Whither went all those houses and apartments? (Yeah, I know Blackrock and the Federal Reserve fund it, but what do they do with them?) Huge immigrant (both legal and illegal) influx, or other secret population boom? "We buy houses" solicitations show up all the time; snail mail, text, stickers on door and gate, and worst of all, Gmail ads. "Newspaper" real estate columns refuse to acknowledge it, and ban me when I try to ask.
"because I’m vaccinated" lack un or not?